November 30, 2010

Lucky Charms and Late nights

Things are going well. I am not sleeping well at all at night. Riley likes to move a lot, and then I seem to have to go to the bathroom every five seconds it seems. Aughhhh it is exhausting. lol But I guess that is to be expected. It seems every night at about midnight.....I am hungry for cold cereal. I don't want anything else but that. ha ha ha And also I have had this weird thing with mixing cereal. Like Lucky charms and honeycombs....or frosted flakes and grape nuts mixed together! lol It sounds a little weird...but it tastes really good. ha ha ha ha

The days are getting a lot colder here. And I know it is not snow, but it seems the daily average lately is between 40-50. Everyone seems to be pretty cold, but I like it a lot. I have been running hotter than normal with this pregnancy, and so to be in the nice cool air feels pretty great. I rarely need a jacket anymore. It does get pretty cold in the house and so I have been building a lot of fires to keep the place nice.

Riley's room is almost complete. Only a few little things left to do. But I must say I lack the motivation to clean. I really want to deep clean this house....but alas....I have been pretty tired from being kept up all night, and so I don't get to much energy to run off of during the day. But I somehow manage to get little things done here and there. I wish I could hire a maid to come help deep clean the house. It would be nice to be able to remove everything from the house and then scrub the walls and the floorboards, and wash the carpets....then as things came back in the house it could all get washed as well.....and I could dejunk the house at the same time. lol It sounds so perfect....but alas it is unrealistic. So I am just trying to slowly figure out how t get the things all done. lol But I am still wishing for a fairy god mother or maid. lol

I went to the doctor yesterday, and things are looking good. Riley had started to really kick and push hard on me, but then these last couple of days I have barely felt any movement. So we had a stress test, and and an ultrasound to see how he is doing. Apparently he moved face down,and so I am not feeling his kicks as much as if he were laying sideways like before. I kind of miss all the activity he was giving me during the day. I dream about him a lot at night. I wish we could go in for one more 3D/4D ultrasound before it is to late, but they are pretty expensive. I just want to sit and stare at him.

I only have a few things left to get for Riley's nursery, and then it will be complete. I am super excited as I have really been enjoying getting all the little odds and ends for his room. Chuck assembled his crib, and it looks a lot better than I thought. And so I got really eager and put his bedding in it as well and have been dressing up his room. lol

Not much else is going on. I need to sell some Scentsy so that I can keep my account active, and also so I can maybe afford some Christmas! I am thinking of maybe hosting another party here in the next two weeks. We will see.

Well that is all for now. Not much else is going on. I will keep you updated as things happen.

XoXo-Andrea Carla

November 25, 2010

Dreams do come true!!

My husband has always wanted a Harley Davidson motorcycle. We have struggled with this over the years on and off. I can't stand those guys that are all hairy, big, and always dressed in black leather. I find it a huge turn off. Also they seem to be crude, and inappropriate. I personally would like to not be married to one of those. So over the years Chuck and I have battled about it back and forth trying to reach some sort of agreement. But alas we just couldn't seem to compromise on anything. Finally this last January Chuck and I found a happy medium that seemed to work for us. We agreed that Chuck and I would get bikes together to share the experience, and with certain no turning into creepy biker people. Our Yukon was almost paid off, and so we would have an extra $600 a month to put toward bikes with a left over $200 extra each month to put towards bills. Chuck also agreed that on my next birthday we would evaluate where we were, and come to some agreement on when we could start a family since we would have been married for 10 years by then.....and I have always wanted children. Chuck was a little hesitant on the kids part, but I think he figured it was something I really wanted, and he was getting something he really wanted. So with that said we came to an agreement over dinner, and looked ahead to the future.

March 15th, 2010 Chuck and I were at Church. Chuck and I were talking to a friend who was telling us a story about how a husband overheard his wife one day at church explaining to a friend why they had never had more children. She said that they had first agreed that they would only have one child and so when they did, she didn't want to go back on her word that she wanted she never brought it up. But the woman secretly always wanted more children. After their first child the husband had gone to the doctor and....snip....snip! As the husband was overhearing the conversation he could hear in his wife's voice how sad she was that they never had more kids. He said he realized how selfish he was being by making his wife live his dreams and not letting her have her dreams. So the husband went with some of his friends and had the snip...snip.... secretly reversed. His wife had no idea. They soon were able to expand their family....and everyone lived happily ever after.
On the ride home from church that day I felt sad, because I knew I would never be able to have a family since my husband did not want any. When we pulled into our driveway Chuck turned to me and started talking. He said I think we should start to try and have a family. I think my draw dropped to the floor at that moment. Well to make this long story a little shorter we started right away and got pregnant. Our Yukon got stolen in April, and when it was recovered Chuck decided to trade it in for a newer one that had OnStar, more safety features, and something he thought would be better for baby.
By doing this......he knew that the Harley's were not going to happen as we would now have a large car payment. But he made the decision on his own. I think his heart broke a little as he came to realize that he probably would not get a bike until our baby was a teenager....and that was still a maybe. But he wanted to do what was best for the family.

Over the last few months we found a way to get Chuck's bike. It took a lot of thinking, and pondering over. But we decided we should take the opportunity that was in front of us. I mean who knows if we would ever have it again. So with a lot of magic, prayers, and fingers crossed......

Chuck got his first Harley Davidson Motorcycle Tuesday night. I unfortunately was unable to get one. And I am having a hard time with it, as I will not be able to share any of these adventures with Chuck. I can't go on rides with him, and cannot enjoy any of this with him. I have to say I am feeling left out. But Chuck is one happy guy. I think he figured it might never happen. But last night we signed the papers, and the bike became his. I recorded his maiden voyage from the bike store home. And it was fun to watch him drive. He couldn't take it out this morning because it was 30 outside.....but he came home this afternoon to get it and take to work to show off. When I see him, he is like a little kid that just received everything he ever wanted. He is soooo happy. I am really happy that he was able to full fill another dream of his.
I do have to say I am very nervous when he is out riding though. He is a new biker, and I am afraid someone won't see him at all. But I just have to pray that they will hear his loud bike coming. I am going to try to upload the video here, if are a few pictures!! ;0)

XoXo-Andrea Carla

November 23, 2010

An amazing Baby Website!

I have been pretty frustrated lately in the fact that I was coming to the realization that getting all the little odds and ends that I wanted to have for baby just wasn't going to happen. I guess over the last 10 years while I was waiting for my husband to decide if he really wanted kids or not.....I was planning it all in my head of what I wanted to get for the nursery. Each time we would go in a store......I would see baby items and secretly jot it down in my head that I had to have that for my child someday. But as my due date is getting closer....and the funds seem to be getting smaller.....I was hit with a harsh reality that it wasn't going to work out all hunky dory like I had hoped.
I wouldn't be getting a diaper Genie, or an Ergo baby carrier. I wouldn't be able to have the nap nanny available when baby got colic, or if I just had a picky baby who wanted to sleep on the Nap Nanny. I had looked online at the Exchange store but wasn't finding great things for my child. I checked out a few other stores like Babies 1st, and Comfort 1st. I made a few purchased there with the military star card....but then soon found out they were raising their prices, and buying and shipping it from Amazon. It wasn't really a bargain at all. It was just nice to be able to use the star card.

Yesterday I found a website that has all the things I have been searching for and then some. And to make it even better.....they take the Military Star card. I was pretty darn excited when I found out. Also they had cheaper prices on a lot of items than even Amazon does. It's hard for a family owned business to compete in pricing with such an industry like Amazon. Also they have free shipping on orders of $49 or more!!!! It all sounded to good to be true. I went nuts in this store. I searched everything. I also found that they have a clearance section that has items that have been opened and returned, but are in good condition. Items that have a dent or scratch, items that are discontinued, and items that are just seasonal. I am so in love with this store. So here it is.....Baby Earth!!!
I am not good at blogging yet so I am not sure how to make a picture or a word into a link....but here is the website If the link does not is the plain website:

I would highly recommend all military wives and moms to check out this site...Also please pass it along. It was such a blessing to be able to find the items I really wished for, cheaper than I expected, and to be able to just put it on the star card was amazing!

Love you all.....and happy Holidays!
Andrea Carla

November 21, 2010

November 19, 2010

fragments of events

I keep forgetting to tell you things that have happened, so I thought I would try to jam them all into one post. I hope you don't mind. Let's see......

Last Monday Nov 8th Chuck was on his way home from work. It was dark outside, and he was tired. He was almost home when he stopped at a stop light. A car with two women pulled up next to him and asked him to roll down his window. He did so to see what they wanted. They asked him if he was in the military, and he said yes. One of the women called him a baby killer and they threw a cup of soda at him/car and drove off. He rolled up his window and came home. He was more upset that someone had thrown something at his car. And it is not the first time someone has called him a baby killer. He has a lot more grace than I do. I would have sped after those girls and called the police. But he just chooses to ignore them.

It always amazes me of how people justify their actions. So if these women hate military.......I always want to ask then do you think since you are African American you should be my slave? That always gets a shocking reaction.....and they of course get very defensive and say no....Well it was the military and a war that won them freedom wasn't it? And what about Hitler....Do you believe what he did was right? Do you believe his killing innocent people, using them as lab rats, and hunting Jews like they were animals was right? And you always get the same answer.....of course not. Well the military and a war saved some of those people!! And then the big kicker.....Do you celebrate the 4th of July? And you usually get the same answer....of course I do.....Well please someone explain to this person what the 4th is all about!!! lol

I understand hating war, but sometimes it has to happen. Sometimes it is the only answer.....because some people have passed the point of listening and negotiating. But sometimes war does amazing things for people. When people react the way they did to my husband the only logical thing I can come up with is they are ignorant. Each one of us usually follows someones rules. If you have a follow their rules, and do what they tell you to do. It is kind of the same for the military.....They follow their Commander in Chief, and those appointed over them. They do what they are told. So tell me this.......I am sure many of you have seen the movie Erin Brockovich. The company PG&E was dumping hazardous chemicals into the ground instead of disposing of them properly. It in turn harmed several families. Now did the lawsuit go after the person dumping? Or the company that told them to do so? The lawsuit went after PG&E!!! I feel it should be the same for the military you know.....If you don't like something that the military is being asked to do....don't hate the little guy who is just doing what he has been asked to do by his country.....get mad at the bigger guy who actually has the power to make changes....this would be your government...state senates....your president. Being angry at the little guy makes you look like an idiot.....he does not have the power or ability to make changes or share the opinions of the public. But congress does. Does this make sense to anyone? lol Oh well enough of this rant.

I forgot to mention that at the Marine Corps Ball this year.....the active duty staff presented flowers to all the spouses and girlfriends during the ceremony. It was a really special thing to happen. All the guys pitched in a little and had flowers purchased for the girls. And then the 1st. Sgt after having introduced his mom and sis who had come to the ball for the 1st time...had them presented with flowers, and then each wife was named and given a large bouquet of flowers. I felt so special being recognized for the things that wives often have to put up with or tolerate. It was so sweet, and so special to be recognized.....and it is little things like that...that make the sacrifices we make...worth while.

Some of my friends who aren't in the military have asked me what do you sacrifice that us wives don't. Well maybe some things aren't so big of a difference, but they add up. So let me point out a few things.

1- Our husbands have to answer their phones no matter what. And the higher rank you get the more responsibility you have to your Marines. We take care of each other. That means if someone needs food, shelter, help with their car, legal help, advice, whatever it is.....we take care of that Marine and his or her family no matter what. Now how many of you would do that for another colleague that wasn't a friend? So even though we take care of our Marine Corps makes it hard to have moments alone sometimes....we almost never make it through a movie in the theater without the phone ringing, ha ha ha And of course those fun 2a.m. phone calls.

2-Work never ends....ever! Even when my husband is on leave....if we haven't left the state....he still comes in almost daily to make sure things are running smoothly, and to check in. Now granted this is a personal choice. But would you care enough about your job to check in when you are on vacation? To make sure those whom you are in charge of are taken care of? Or do you figure they can handle it while you are out? We had to move our wedding date, because the Marine Corps needed my husband at that time. We did not have a honeymoon because the Marine Corps needed him back ASAP. We have had to cancel dates because he gets called back in to help with something unexpected. Work is a 24/7 lifestyle for most military families. We eat, breath, and live the corps....and some how find moments for each other in between.

3-Deployments. Unfortunately a lot of you need explaining to this. I have heard civilian wives respond to military wives when they are saying their man is deployed and they miss him with " My husband went away for a two week golf trip and I didn't think I would make it without him!" My jaw drops when I hear these kind of stories where people try to associate a vacation or a week long business a 9 month deployment. lol When our husbands leave. We kiss them goodbye and try to hold it together and not break down until after he is gone. We kiss them goodbye and watch them leave not knowing if that is the last time we will ever see them, kiss them, or even talk to them. The next time we see them might be in a hospital where they have brain damage....or in a casket. We adjust our lives to playing both roles as mother and father. Sometimes we don't hear for them for weeks at a time, or even months depending on where they are. During these deployments we take care of the home, bills, cars, everything! And that can be a pain when something like a car or utility bill is not in your name. Companies can really be difficult sometimes and won't help you. So you have to find your Power of Attorney and send that, and sometimes they can still be difficult. I once had a credit card company tell me I was a liar and that my husband wasn't in the military after I had sent them my P.O.A., and a letter from his command!!! All I needed to do was change the payment date.

So these are just a few little things that you can see can make military life challenging sometimes. I am not complaining about this.....I am just wanting to convey to you that sometimes we really do sacrifice a whole heck of a lot. It is a challenging lifestyle.

Well that is all for now folks. Thanks for listening to me ramble on. ;0)
XoXo-Andrea Carla

MilSpouse Friday Fill-In

1-If you had to be shipwrecked on a deserted island, but all your human needs - such as food and water - were taken care of, what two items would you want to have with you?
I would say a picture of family, and a good book I could read over and over.

2-If you were a salad, what kind of dressing would you have?
Ranch.....the only kind I really like.

3-If you had to live on a ranch, what kind of animals would you raise/own?
Horses! I would probably have a cow or two every year for the butcher, and maybe some Lambs, but for sure Horses. ;0)

4-If your life was was portrayed as a movie, who would you choose to play you and your significant other?
I would probably say Katherine Heigl for me, because she is cooky and funny.....and for the hubs.....I would say The Rock...or rather Dwayne Johnson...he acts all tuff...but he is a really sweet guy underneath.

5-What was the last thing you put a stamp on (envelope, duh, but what was in the envelope)?
Baby shower invitations......and a letter to a friend. ;0)

Hope you enjoyed my silly little answers. lol

XoXo-Andrea Carla

November 16, 2010

Baby Shower extravaganza

A little while ago Chuck and I were in Babies R Us and we ran into a friend from the ward....Leah!!! ;0) She just had a sweet little baby girl, and asked me if I was having a baby shower. I told her no, that it had fallen through. She said she wanted to throw me one then...and co host with another friend Beth!!. I have to admit since that night I have been pretty excited. Although I was very scared that no one would come. She contacted me and we set up an evite.....I think I checked that thing like 5 times a day to see who was coming. I was Uber excited. slowly but surely the numbers of Yes's started to rise...and luckily stayed above the ones that said No. I wasn't able to get a hold of everyone, and was sad some people couldn't make it. But I just couldn't wait for it.

As the time approached I was worried that I would get a bunch of things that we didn't need. I have been really trying to budget things to get for Riley each month in, but babies are insanely expensive. lol I didn't want to sound selfish, but how do you try and get things you need? lol

The day of the shower, I couldn't wait for the time. I was a little late but I made it. When I showed up, mostly everyone who was able to make it was there. My Aunt Jan had driven 3 hours just to come!! ;0) And my boss from the Y whom I love so much was able to make it as well. We got some refreshments, and settled in the living room. We started out by playing a word scramble game. I have to admit it.....I was horrible at We started to play another game, and ended up forgetting about it at the end. lol Then everyone introduced themselves and told how they knew me, and gave me parenting advice. That turned out to be pretty funny. We were able to record it on my awesome flip camera that my Auntie Bobbi gave to me to help keep everyone connected throughout my entire pregnancy and as baby grows up. ;0) I have to admit that little camera has come in handy quite a few times now. I will try to find a way to upload it here, but if not I will e-mail it to you if you would like, and post it on facebook.

Next on the agenda was opening gifts and socializing. We spent a few hours chatting opening gifts and having a great time. And I was soooo happy to receive things that I knew we needed for the baby, things I didn't even know I would need....and things that would make life just a little easier. When it was all over....I couldn't believe it was so late. lol It was so fun to see everyone, and to be able to hang out together. It was really awesome to be able to get to know people better.
Here are some pics from that night. Thank you everyone who really meant a lot to me, and it was so fun!!!

Love you all
XoXo-Andrea Carla